You ever have one of those moments where you are explaining something out loud to someone else and you realize just how fucked up it sounds as you say it? And you realize that you’ve been justifying it to yourself (and possibly everyone else) for who knows how long?

Whether it’s a relationship or a reaction or a feeling or an event or a behavior… we all do it. We all brush the red flags under the rug because it’s easier that realizing that that person isn’t who we wanted to associate with.

It’s hard…sometimes the events happen years…even decades ago…and we’ve been excusing it for far too long. It’s one thing if they are truly apologetic…it’s another if they don’t see what they did was wrong/bad/hurtful.

I’m in no way saying that I’m a saint…I can promise you that I’m far from that. But even so, that doesn’t mean that I have to continue to make excuses for other people. I need to focus on giving myself the grace to learn and better myself rather than constantly giving it to other people and then getting stabbed in the back.

One day.