I’ve always had thoughts of being with multiple people. To me, even though I was brought up in a “stereotypical” family of 2 married parents, I always wondered about the “what ifs” that monogamy brought. I had been the cheater. I had been the one cheated on. I started writing. I started reading. I started trying to figure out if I was the only one who had these ideas. Finally I came across the word that finally made sense to me.

Compersion.

The “opposite of jealousy”. Rather than feeling upset or threatened when your partner romantically or sexually interacts with another person, I feel a sense of happiness for them. Does that mean that it’s always easy? Absolutely not. Just because I feel compersion, doesn’t mean that I don’t ever feel jealousy. I feel joy when I know that my hubby has a connection with someone else. I enjoy seeing him happy. I enjoy seeing him smile. I enjoy knowing that he is happy. And I enjoy knowing that he is my forever partner. From what I can tell from our conversations, this is what my hubby feels for me when I see my partners.

I in no way am an expert on these items. I am learning every day.